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Why I’m lucky to have a loud voice according to Paul Carr

Bossy Flossie ⋅ September 28, 2019

I have a loud voice which I used to think of as a curse, since being loud is considered unladylike. If the ideal woman is supposed to be demure and sweet-sounding, like sun-tinged honey drops, then my voice is like the blare of a thousand angry women screaming; raucous and intense! Quite often I will find myself at a café, minding my own business and chatting casually with a friend, when someone from a nearby table will get up and shush me – how rude! My mother is always asking me to “keep it down” whenever I speak.

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How to appreciate life through the lens of poetry

Bossy Flossie ⋅ September 4, 2019

Although I am an avid reader, I have never been a fan of poetry. Whilst I will happily obliterate a weekend devouring volumes of Tolstoy, Dickens, Greene and other classic writers, the thought of reading a Shakespearean sonnet sends me to sleep! Well.. at least until my recent awakening. I have learned that enjoying a good book and appreciating poetry are two vastly different things. In a book, there is a storyline to follow and characters to relate to; a great story can easily transport the most humble reader into another world. However, poetry is more akin to photography or painting. It plays with language in rich and surprising ways to create an evocative picture and like most art forms, poetry is always open to interpretation.

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What is a little money between friends?

Bossy Flossie ⋅ July 27, 2019

What is a little money between friends? It’s funny how the relationship between money and friends has so many cultural overlays. In Europe, for instance, people openly share their salary details with one another. Not so much as to compare their situation or show off, but rather to bitch about their sorry lot. Salaries in the UK are some of the lowest in the world relative to the cost of living. The divide between rich and poor is mammoth (hence we have Brexit).

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Moving to Singapore has made me fat, it’s time to lose some weight

Bossy Flossie ⋅ May 27, 2019

It usually starts with a photo; one awful photo of yourself looking fat and horrible, which is your wakeup call. For me, that photo was from my recent holiday to Gili Air. I was standing in front of the pier wearing a yellow t-shirt and some elephant-print pants (the typical female backpacker uniform). It made me realise just how much weight I have gained since coming to Singapore. It also made me reconsider my diet and lifestyle. More →

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Bossy Flossie has been busy studying and moving house

Bossy Flossie ⋅ April 25, 2019

I am so touched to have received many inquiries as to my whereabouts lately. I haven’t posted a blog since February and a handful of people actually care. Well, not to worry. I have absolutely no intention of keeping silent for too long (although I very nearly was silenced… details to follow shortly). I have just been busy. I’ve been busy mostly with my studies and moving house. But, I have still managed to find the time to keep myself well-fed. I recently discovered a brand new hawker joint, just up the road from me in Farrer Park that I can’t wait to write about…. soon!

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Who are Tokyo’s homeless and what can we learn from them?

Bossy Flossie ⋅ December 24, 2018

My first visit to Japan was on a business trip. I spent Monday to Friday working long hours and seeing little else besides the inside of my hotel room and the office. But I arranged to stay over the weekend so I could have a chance to explore Tokyo.

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Bossy Flossie hires a Manager after being named Top Singapore Lifestyle Blogger

Bossy Flossie ⋅ October 7, 2018

This past month has been an exciting time for Bossy Flossie. Not only have I had the opportunity to travel to Sri Lanka and check out many more amazing Singapore restaurants, but I was also recognised as one of the top 30 Singapore Lifestyle Bloggers to follow in 2018 by Feedspot. I have also started a creative non-fiction writing class taught by novelist and poet Darryl Whetter. The blog is growing and life couldn’t be better.

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How I helped my boss discover his True and Authentic self

Bossy Flossie ⋅ September 25, 2018

A shapely woman with coffee colour skin stood at the front of the auditorium, facing a crowd of fifty eager young women. She wore a sleeveless, white cotton dress with wide navy stripes that accentuated her round figure. Her full lips were immaculately coloured red. But there was something not quite right about her face. It was masked in too much white powder. She looked like a porcelain doll with brown arms.

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An amazing career that started with a shitty cup of coffee

Bossy Flossie ⋅ September 15, 2018

“Thank you, and by the way your coffee tastes like shit.” That was the line that got me my first real job in London. I spent my formative years working in hospitality. During my early 20’s in Sydney I was waiting tables in Darling Harbour. The money was good and I have fond memories of drinking the dregs from leftover bottles of wine, whilst smoking cigarettes and polishing cutlery at the end of a busy shift.

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What to do when you lock your keys in the boot Thailand

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What to do when you lock your keys in the car… I did it in Thailand

Bossy Flossie ⋅ July 10, 2018

What do you do when you lock your keys in the car? This happened to me recently during a weekend in Bangkok. I had driven outside of the city with a group of friends and we were having a fabulous time browsing the fresh produce and buying all sorts of traditional handcrafts and foods at the Bagnoi Floating Market. We went back to the car to load up our purchases in the trunk and after closing the trunk lid we immediately realised our error… we had locked our keys in the car!! More →

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My Mochi kitten is the ultimate gossip girl and fashionista!

Bossy Flossie ⋅ July 3, 2018

Misty and Mochi are my two clever kittens that live with me in Singapore. Like other beautiful youths, they cherish many hopes and dreams for the future. However they also face personal difficulties and they like to share their experiences with others. Mochi is the youngest sibling and she is also the most adored girl in the household. She is often described as beautiful, gorgeous, mesmerising and enchanting. Her MBTI profile is ESFP and she will win your heart and steal your wallet!

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Sheikh U: Cute kittens you've got there. I recently adopted a kitten and I named it Abel! I never thought I'd get…
Yuji: Mochi looks like the ultimate Japanese kitten... she would be a star here! Love you Mochi x
Sandra: I'm impressed Mochi managed to score an internship with Chanel.. that would be my dream job. She is clearly doing…
Cheska J: How do Mochi and Misty go along, they are polar opposites! Although their differences can bring each other together, one…

Misty and Mochi sister kittens drinking wine

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My clever kitten Misty who loves reading and drinking wine

Bossy Flossie ⋅ July 2, 2018

Misty and Mochi are my two clever kittens that live with me in Singapore. They hold many hopes and dreams for the future but they also experience trials and tribulations that are easy to relate to. Misty is the elder and more mature sister. Some people describe her as the most cerebral member of the household. Her MBTI profile is ENTP and although she comes across as shy initially, she is actually very bossy.

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Cheska J: Misty sounds like quite the scholar who could hold out an argument with you and refuse to lose! Ha ha,…

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Singapore’s unhealthy obsession with air conditioning

Bossy Flossie ⋅ June 21, 2018

When I moved to Singapore the most common question I was asked was how I managed to adapt to the weather. Singapore doesn’t have seasons and it is hot and humid all year round. However it was not the weather that I found hard to adapt to but rather Singapore’s unhealthy obsession with air conditioning.

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Home Breed Kittens Singapore Grey British Shorthair

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Love my kittens Misty and Mochi although they are not rescue cats

Bossy Flossie ⋅ May 29, 2018

For many years I was a crazy cat lady without any cats until I took home my two grey kittens Misty and Mochi this weekend. I was searching for sibling kittens to adopt for several months and everyone insisted I should rescue stray cats who were most in need of a home. I might add, most people who volunteered their opinion didn’t own pets of their own. From the moment I first met Misty and Mochi I knew they were to be my kittens but nonetheless, I have spent an inordinate amount of time defending my decision to adopt home bred kittens.

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Cheska J: Cuties, Misty and Mochi! I feed the stray cats that pass by our house from time to time. I don't…
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How Sydney became Shitney, a story about Pokies and Light Rail

Bossy Flossie ⋅ May 20, 2018

Sydney Harbour is one of the most beautiful places in the world. Those sweeping, white waves of the Opera House juxtaposed with bright skies and the bluest water you have ever seen. The Sydney Harbour Bridge is the crown of the harbour, sitting proudly atop passages of expensive yachts and cruise liners, and linking one city centre to another. Yet Sydney Harbour is an iconic site reserved for tourists, hospitality workers and the rich and famous. It is a cunning disguise to divert attention from the shit fight Sydney has become with its multitude of social problems and forever haemorrhaging main roads. The question begs, how has Sydney become Shitney?

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Yuji: Wow, I'm kinda surprised to read this. Sydney has always been a place I wanted to visit and even live.…
Sandra: Sydney is the new Las Vegas.... If I'm planning a hen or stag do, we'll do Sydney.
Cheska J: I didn't know that flight attendants dread that route! I actually do admire Sydney, although my view of Sydney has…

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Why are gyms so expensive in Singapore?

Bossy Flossie ⋅ April 26, 2018

When you first move to Singapore, it is a slow awakening to discover that it is a damn expensive place to live. Like a mirage, the cheap transportation and hawker food lures you into a false sense of financial security. The realisation I was living in one of the most expensive countries in the world hit me when I wanted to get back into fitness. I had to ask myself, why are gyms so expensive in Singapore? Holding gym membership here is both prestigious and a luxury. Running along the river or doing tae chi in the park are more popular ways for locals to burn calories however as a foreigner, I would struggle to exercise outside in such extreme humidity. And if you think doing yoga is a cheaper option, forget about it! More →

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Sheikh U: Those gyms better be worth it... Goodness, I don't think I even pay more than $120 a YEAR for my…
Yuji: To be honest, those prices are more than reasonable for gyms in Singapore. Let's face it... Singapore is not a…
Sandra: I don't believe in gyms... they collect your money just for buying equipment. Why not go for a run outside?!

PM Resign Lee Terrex Conspiracy Singapore Raffles Place

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Protest in Singapore and why Freedom of Speech is overrated

Bossy Flossie ⋅ April 11, 2018

I was wandering around Raffles Place deciding what to buy for lunch, when I came across a crowd of people watching a single man in protest in Singapore against the Terrex conspiracy. He was holding a flimsy placard calling for the Prime Minister Lee Hsien Loong to resign over the Terrex conspiracy and repeating the mantra via loudspeaker. In typical Singapore fashion, I copied what everyone else was doing and started videoing the guy without understanding the significance. More →

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Foreigners taking jobs in Asia Singapore

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Are foreigners really taking our jobs or are we taking theirs?

Bossy Flossie ⋅ March 24, 2018

Today it seems the ever popular mantra is foreigners are taking our jobs. It is heard in every first world city and news headline and this fear has helped bring about historical events such as Brexit in the UK and the election of Trump in the US. However since I have moved to Singapore and started travelling the region, I have been surprised by the number of white people working in low end jobs in southeast Asia. Whilst we let the first world governments stir up emotions and convince us that foreigners are bad, it seems we also feel entitled to exploit the cheap prices and available opportunities of the very countries whose nationals we want to kick out. But is it really bad to steal jobs, or is the movement of people better for everyone?

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Sheikh U: I don't think anyone is taking anyone's job literally. Some are working harder to acquire and work for a job…
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Chop Kongsi Atelier Workshop by May Lyn Foo in Penang

Bossy Flossie ⋅ March 18, 2018

I was strolling through George Town in Penang and seeking refuge from the heat, when I happened upon the Chop Kongsi atelier workshop. This darling little store full of quirks and delights is run by May Lyn Foo. The hour I spent browsing the trifles and trinkets and casually chatting with May Lyn were one of the highlights of visit to Penang.

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Looking for a New Apartment to Rent after Moving to Singapore

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Finding a Condo to Rent in Singapore and the Unscrupulous Agents

Bossy Flossie ⋅ March 15, 2018

One of the first challenges I faced moving to Singapore was finding a place to rent. I learned quickly that the system, which is designed to protect renters, is full of unscrupulous real estate agents. Nonetheless, luck was on my side as at the time rents were low and there were plenty of vacant modern condominiums. I found a convenient two bedroom apartment close to the city centre… and I lived to tell the tale.

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Yuji: Interesting article... have you tried looking for a place to rent in Singapore without agents?
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Too many High Rises in Singapore causes Elevator Anxiety

Bossy Flossie ⋅ March 11, 2018

There is a well-known saying in the UK… you know you’ve become a Londoner when waiting more than 2 minutes for a tube is a frustration. Whilst Londoners love to complain about the tube (signal failure on Metropolitan, District, Central and Circle lines, otherwise good service on ALL OTHER underground lines) the fact is, it is one of the few cities where frequency of train services is so high. But that is London. How do you know when you’ve become a Singaporean? After nearly a year of living here I would like to propose the following new saying: you know you’ve become a Singaporean when getting an elevator to yourself is the highlight of your day.

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Trip to Brighton Uk with a Troubled Friend

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Remembering my trip to Brighton Beach with a Troubled Friend

Bossy Flossie ⋅ March 11, 2018

I was browsing through some old photos recently when I came across an album from when I visited Brighton beach with my friend a few years ago. My friend was an alcoholic and sadly has passed away now, but I had fond memories of her and our trip. We spent a weekend together hanging around the Brighton boardwalk and soaking in the local culture. It was our last good time together.

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An Ordinary Life After Breaking my L1 Bone

Bossy Flossie ⋅ February 26, 2018

It took many years for me to achieve an ordinary and pain free life after breaking my L1 bone. I had broken my back after falling two stories from the roof of a building in London. In hospital just days after the fall, the surgeon and spinal specialist Dr Arun Ranganathan asked me to make a choice, to undergo spinal surgery or stay bed bound and let the injury heal naturally. It was a difficult decision, but one thing I remember clearly was when Dr Ranganathan said a broken back would affect me for the rest of my life.

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Heartbreak and Cruelty at the Live Turtle and Tortoise Museum

Bossy Flossie ⋅ February 26, 2018

My visit to the Live Turtle and Tortoise Museum in Singapore was a horrific experience. The Live Turtle and Tortoise Museum houses a collection of sad and poorly treated animals, some of which are endangered. It is located in the Chinese Gardens of Singapore. Witnessing such heartbreaking scenes and cruelty to turtles ruined my day.

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My Housemate from Hell was a Drunk not a Mummy’s Boy

Bossy Flossie ⋅ February 18, 2018

I have lived with all sorts of people, from students to old women, but my housemate from hell was a drunk. I once thought that a mummy’s boy was the worst person you could live because they are not used to doing things for themselves. However my view changed after I had a terrible experience living with a drunk. An alcoholic is an irrational person who spends all their money on drinking and has no consideration for others. Whilst you can teach a mummy’s boy how to wash dishes if you are persistent, the alcoholic will never care to learn.

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An Australian Contractor and Advice for Working in Sydney

Bossy Flossie ⋅ February 18, 2018

I recently had the pleasure to meet with an Australian contractor who is currently working in Sydney. Tom is a self-described perennial student of love, life, death and all of life’s lessons. He grew up in rural NSW before moving to the big city and becoming successful in the ICT industry. He also has a reputation for being (slightly) enigmatic. Sydney looks like a dream destination in glossy postcards, however speaking with Tom convinced me that it could actually be a nice place to work too! I mean, Tom is probably the only person in the world who admits to liking recruiters so that’s gotta be something. Please read on to hear more of Tom’s story as well as the real life view on working as an Australian contractor.

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Horrible Airbnb Guests Taught me to Dislike People

Bossy Flossie ⋅ January 29, 2018

I was an Airbnb host for one year, letting out a spare bedroom with ensuite in Central London. During the first 6 months I hosted 43 guests from more than 8 different countries with the average review being an okay 3 stars. However one too many bad experiences, I decided to hang up my Airbnb keys and retire. I grew tired of the stress of hosting as horrible Airbnb guests taught me to dislike people.

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Apocalyptic Movies Blog Post Good Bye London TV

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Surviving the End, Best and Worst Apocalyptic Movies

Bossy Flossie ⋅ January 28, 2018

The best and worst apocalyptic movies imagine the end of the world, whether it be caused by human destruction or natural occurrences beyond our control. The imaginations of humanity have run wild on this topic for centuries. The Mayan civilization of Mexico predicted 2012 would be the end of an era. In 95 AD Saint John wrote the book of Revelations, prophesying a bloody end to man. However what I love most about the best and worst apocalyptic movies is they teach us the skills needed to survive when the beginning of the end does arrive.

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